If you could read my mind....  

secret_lade 47F
13993 posts
3/28/2021 9:46 am
If you could read my mind....


I just love this song Gordon Lightfoot.

If you could read my mind right now, you'd be lost in my thoughts, I'm afraid. There's a lot going on in there today.

I received this ice breaker message yesterday...

When you’re getting your pussy ate, do you prefer to be on your back with your legs spread wide on either side of my face, or bent over with your face in a pillow with your ass in the air for me to spread those big ass cheeks apart so I can bury my face in that ass for a taste?
3/28/2021 1:23 am


Doesn't that just make you weak in the knees??

Personally, I'd rather not have someone's face buried in my ass. At some point, I'd like to kiss those lips and.... Yah, that's not going to happen if I know it's been there.

Just saying....

But, it made me wonder. Do men really think this way? When you see a woman for the first time, are these the types of first thoughts that are running through your mind? When you talk to women, is this what you're picturing?

I talk to a lot of guys during the course of a regular day.... I'm kind of curious how much sexual fantasy goes on behind the scenes that I'm unaware of.

Is it a prevailing theme even in such entities as my former Work BFF, or... work conversationalists such as Nose Hairs? Is this the driving force behind his need to chat with me any spare moment he has?

I'm a curious mind....

secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/30/2021 1:47 am

    Quoting citizen4722:
    Just fart in his face That should spoil his appetite at least.
Oh, ew.... amp; LOL


citizen4722 63M  
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3/29/2021 8:10 am

Just fart in his face That should spoil his appetite at least.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/29/2021 3:48 am

    Quoting MrWrong4RghtNow:
    Dear sweet baby Jesus, hello no. I try not to be judgmental but..... darn. My BIGGEST pet peeve with men online is the truly repugnant ways they think that saying (writing) such things is even remotely ok.
    I'm not saying to never get nasty but only do it when you know for a fact the other person likes that kind of talk.
    I've joked a lot about being a perv and while my mind loves rolling in the gutter, it really doesn't. The only times I think sexually of a woman are either if I've developed a true attraction on many levels or if I'm watching porn. Or listening to Dua Lipa. My goodness, she's just adorable. Ahem.
    Anyways, that's my thinking. You're welcome
I agree... There is a time and place for this kind of talk. It happens organically when two people develop an attraction for each other. I feel better knowing that, for the most part, my interactions and conversations with my male coworkers and counterparts are work related and rated G.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/29/2021 3:42 am

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    Crikey, he sounds like a charmer........

    I never think such highly sexualised thoughts first off. Surely you need to get to know each other a little, see if there's any sexual chemistry before venturing anything approaching a sexual flirt or fantasy? So presumably your work pals are of a similar mind?

    I always wonder if guys who write that stuff would actually approach a girl face to face and say such things? Would that be the chat-up line if they were in the pub?
I think that guys who do this kind of stuff online are probably super awkward and unable to talk to women in real life. They do it here because they can hide behind anonymity. This guy's profile pic is of his shirted chest and a neck tie... I'm guessing he probably works in a realm where behavior like this would get him shit canned quickly... So he takes his frustrations out here, on women like me.


lindoboy100 58M
23884 posts
3/29/2021 2:56 am

Crikey, he sounds like a charmer........

I never think such highly sexualised thoughts first off. Surely you need to get to know each other a little, see if there's any sexual chemistry before venturing anything approaching a sexual flirt or fantasy? So presumably your work pals are of a similar mind?

I always wonder if guys who write that stuff would actually approach a girl face to face and say such things? Would that be the chat-up line if they were in the pub?

Nada más que fallas......


MrWrong4RghtNow 55M  
2184 posts
3/29/2021 1:25 am

Dear sweet baby Jesus, hello no. I try not to be judgmental but..... darn. My BIGGEST pet peeve with men online is the truly repugnant ways they think that saying (writing) such things is even remotely ok.
I'm not saying to never get nasty but only do it when you know for a fact the other person likes that kind of talk.
I've joked a lot about being a perv and while my mind loves rolling in the gutter, it really doesn't. The only times I think sexually of a woman are either if I've developed a true attraction on many levels or if I'm watching porn. Or listening to Dua Lipa. My goodness, she's just adorable. Ahem.
Anyways, that's my thinking. You're welcome

My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/29/2021 1:09 am

    Quoting New2Midlo:
    Can't speak for other men, but for me, the most mindshare I give a woman, when I see her profile, is 'attractive / not attractive' and 'potentially compatible / I'd kill her'. I don't bother visualizing what I'd do to her until she divulges a little of what she likes done to her or thinks she might like done to her.

    Starting off with a note about eating a woman sort of made me chuckle, because of the memory it conjured up. During a first outing together, I was working the oral like a virtuoso, putting in my best performance. But something wasn't right so I looked up to see her looking down at me with a clear expression of 'are you done yet?' Total g-spot girl.
A g-spot girl... I've never heard it put that way before. I can relate to that....


New2Midlo 52M  
1029 posts
3/28/2021 6:01 pm

Can't speak for other men, but for me, the most mindshare I give a woman, when I see her profile, is 'attractive / not attractive' and 'potentially compatible / I'd kill her'. I don't bother visualizing what I'd do to her until she divulges a little of what she likes done to her or thinks she might like done to her.

Starting off with a note about eating a woman sort of made me chuckle, because of the memory it conjured up. During a first outing together, I was working the oral like a virtuoso, putting in my best performance. But something wasn't right so I looked up to see her looking down at me with a clear expression of 'are you done yet?' Total g-spot girl.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 5:09 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    Do men really think this way? Some do

    When you see a woman for the first time, are these the types of first thoughts that are running through your mind? Not about eating her ass

    When you talk to women, is this what you're picturing? Hell no
Thank you! I needed to hear this. I do know that for some guys, this is probably case... It's good to know it's not always the case.


redrockrascal 63M
23346 posts
3/28/2021 4:57 pm

Do men really think this way? Some do

When you see a woman for the first time, are these the types of first thoughts that are running through your mind? Not about eating her ass

When you talk to women, is this what you're picturing? Hell no

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:53 pm

    Quoting classicalrebel4:
    I can't help but wonder about what could happen between myself and some woman whose profile caught my eye. But I would have to get to know the woman more on an intellectual level to see if we click before I would really start to fantasize about her. And if we got to that point, I wouldn't need to send the kind of message that this guy sent.
We've all wondered about profiles that have caught our eye... It's part of the beauty of a profile. To capture interest! But, you said it perfectly, you have to get to that point before you do send that message.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:51 pm

    Quoting Massass1963:
    I have to disagree with the comments above that indicate all men think sexual when talking to a woman. First, for me to think sexual about a woman, I have to actually think she is attractive. If that is true, then she needs to be acting flirtatiously with me. I don't think "I want to fuck her" every time I meet a human with a vagina. Some I do LOL....but certainly not all!
I tend to see and talk to so many people during the course of the day, sexual thoughts rarely ever come into play. Guys tend to flirt with me a lot, so that doesn't really come in to play either. When I have found myself thinking of someone sexually, or fantasizing, it's the guys I have deep conversations with or capture my interest.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:40 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    Yes, I confess. We all live to munch ass.
oh my.... LOL Nothing against those that do, but, it's really not my thing.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:39 pm

    Quoting flannel_light:
    I have been living in the dark ages all these years. I never think that when I talk to men . What a great blog this was.
Dark ages you have!


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:38 pm

    Quoting Mr2please2:
    As a very sexual male..I dont think that way! I always look at a woman's face first,,aww the beauty in her eyes...smile..lips..neck..
That's good to know! As human beings, I know that at some point or another we're all going to fantasize a little about a cute coworker or friend, but for the most part, it's pretty limited. At least for me it is.... It's only when I have a really big crush on a cute coworker or friend that I wonder about that oral positioning... etc.


mc_justmc 61M  
6837 posts
3/28/2021 4:36 pm

Yes, I confess. We all live to munch ass.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:34 pm

    Quoting boobwhisperer69:
    I try to picture how they groom their pussy!! You know, whats the style of the Jack-pot????
Really! Oh my! I wonder how many guys have wondered that about me...


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:32 pm

    Quoting chrissy1060:
    Is a lovely song from way back when we didn't really take any notice of the lyrics , ice breaker message isn't really worthy of any comment other than a smile really
If anything, it made me feel icier toward him... The song is amazing.


Massass1963 58M

3/28/2021 4:32 pm

I have to disagree with the comments above that indicate all men think sexual when talking to a woman. First, for me to think sexual about a woman, I have to actually think she is attractive. If that is true, then she needs to be acting flirtatiously with me. I don't think "I want to fuck her" every time I meet a human with a vagina. Some I do LOL....but certainly not all!


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:32 pm

    Quoting agedfun1:
    The first thing I notice is a woman's smile. The second thing I notice is their personality which usually answers the question: do I want to know this person better?
I notice smiles and personality. I like smart, funny men who can engage me in conversation. That's how I know I want to spend more time with someone.... If I think to myself, I wonder what his thoughts are on [whatever], I know I like him.


classicalrebel4 66M
1734 posts
3/28/2021 4:29 pm

I can't help but wonder about what could happen between myself and some woman whose profile caught my eye. But I would have to get to know the woman more on an intellectual level to see if we click before I would really start to fantasize about her. And if we got to that point, I wouldn't need to send the kind of message that this guy sent.

Please don't let me be misunderstood.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:28 pm

    Quoting KX450F2016:
    These kinds of messages is why so many other messages from decent guys go unseen. Why even open a message if that's all you get. Th women just get bombarded by rude & ignorant guys who have no tact. Granted, I have lots of fantasies and desires, but would never start with something like that. I do like to ask questions once it is appropriate. Smile, eyes, and overall looks is what I notice first.
It tends to strip a little of your humanity away when you see stuff like this.... This guy doesn't see the women on this site as people, they're objects. Tools to be used to obtain his sexual gratification. Used and tossed aside.... The problem is, I'm still a person and I don't feel like being used and tossed aside.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:24 pm

    Quoting JustlomesumMe:
    That is one of my top 2 songs by Mr. Lightfoot. I saw him live in June 2019.

    It is a shame the way men other men act on this site. Almost make me ashamed to be one. I would not ask something like that until we are discussing our likes and dislikes. Just the generation I was raised in.

    We all have sexual fantasy's the we keep to ourselves. Would have to be very close to someone to tell mine and she would have to share hers too.
I'm envious! He was at Interlochen a few summers ago, and I wanted to go see him, but I just couldn't work it out. You said it perfectly, it's when you get to that step where you are discussing your likes and dislikes that this type of conversation comes into play. This guy was likely jumping to the sex talk because he was looking to get off.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:20 pm

    Quoting sweet0necter:
    Lmao.. I am so at a loss for words.. I feel ice breakers are really to get a conversation flowing... we could agree that it did?

    ... ive said some pretty raunchy things here I would never dare say in Public or on most other platforms.

    Oh!! LOL... im going to say I was once at a bar and there was a very inebriated cowboy asking something very similar...
I didn't respond back to him... But it did get the conversation flowing here instead! LOL I usually save my raunchy conversations for specific individuals, I do talk like that but not with just anyone. It takes a little bit for me to feel trust in someone... Get your feelings hurt a few times and you change your ways quick like. LOL


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:15 pm

    Quoting patchdriver:
    Do naughty thoughts run through a man's mind when he meets a woman? The fantasy part of the brain is racing with all kinds of dirty thoughts, however, a smart man, one that is as tuned into women as much as possible, will let the reality side govern his behavior. You will never know about those fantasy thoughts for he will never speak of them. Even in a long term relationship he will have some dirty thoughts about you which will never be revealed because he is aware that they are a fantasy locked away.

    So, yes, they do have those naughty thoughts, but a wise man will never articulate them. Be rest assured, when your male coworker talks to you, his mind is rampant with dirty thoughts about you, but you will never know.
Very interesting.... I think this will be in the back of my mind, going forward, when I talk to my male counterparts. I'll have to start checking pupil dilation and eye contact.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 4:07 pm

    Quoting topherific:
    don't normally fantasize about a woman unless i've felt a chemical connection, then its on
A chemical connection... How do you know you've felt a chemical connection?


topherific 59M  
5147 posts
3/28/2021 2:41 pm

don't normally fantasize about a woman unless i've felt a chemical connection, then its on


patchdriver 66M/66F  
130 posts
3/28/2021 2:40 pm

Do naughty thoughts run through a man's mind when he meets a woman? The fantasy part of the brain is racing with all kinds of dirty thoughts, however, a smart man, one that is as tuned into women as much as possible, will let the reality side govern his behavior. You will never know about those fantasy thoughts for he will never speak of them. Even in a long term relationship he will have some dirty thoughts about you which will never be revealed because he is aware that they are a fantasy locked away.

So, yes, they do have those naughty thoughts, but a wise man will never articulate them. Be rest assured, when your male coworker talks to you, his mind is rampant with dirty thoughts about you, but you will never know.


sweet0necter 47F  
2059 posts
3/28/2021 1:23 pm

Lmao.. I am so at a loss for words.. I feel ice breakers are really to get a conversation flowing... we could agree that it did?

... ive said some pretty raunchy things here I would never dare say in Public or on most other platforms.

Oh!! LOL... im going to say I was once at a bar and there was a very inebriated cowboy asking something very similar...


JustlomesumMe 66M
661 posts
3/28/2021 11:40 am

That is one of my top 2 songs by Mr. Lightfoot. I saw him live in June 2019.

It is a shame the way men other men act on this site. Almost make me ashamed to be one. I would not ask something like that until we are discussing our likes and dislikes. Just the generation I was raised in.

We all have sexual fantasy's the we keep to ourselves. Would have to be very close to someone to tell mine and she would have to share hers too.

So nice to be insane; no one asks you to explain.


KX450F2016 53M  
191 posts
3/28/2021 11:17 am

These kinds of messages is why so many other messages from decent guys go unseen. Why even open a message if that's all you get. Th women just get bombarded by rude & ignorant guys who have no tact. Granted, I have lots of fantasies and desires, but would never start with something like that. I do like to ask questions once it is appropriate. Smile, eyes, and overall looks is what I notice first.


agedfun1 74M

3/28/2021 11:02 am

The first thing I notice is a woman's smile. The second thing I notice is their personality which usually answers the question: do I want to know this person better?

Equal opportunity chatter here. All topics fair game from A to Z. Private mailbox blog agedfun1.


chrissy1060 62F
23 posts
3/28/2021 10:45 am

Is a lovely song from way back when we didn't really take any notice of the lyrics , ice breaker message isn't really worthy of any comment other than a smile really


boobwhisperer69 58M  
7829 posts
3/28/2021 10:39 am

I try to picture how they groom their pussy!! You know, whats the style of the Jack-pot????


Mr2please2 59M  
61 posts
3/28/2021 10:36 am

As a very sexual male..I dont think that way! I always look at a woman's face first,,aww the beauty in her eyes...smile..lips..neck..


flannel_light 59F  
4196 posts
3/28/2021 10:06 am

I have been living in the dark ages all these years. I never think that when I talk to men . What a great blog this was.

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


secret_lade 47F
8745 posts
3/28/2021 9:47 am

I just love this song by Gordon Lightfoot.

If you could read my mind right now, you'd be lost in my thoughts, I'm afraid. There's a lot going on in there today.

I received this ice breaker message yesterday...

When you’re getting your pussy ate, do you prefer to be on your back with your legs spread wide on either side of my face, or bent over with your face in a pillow with your ass in the air for me to spread those big ass cheeks apart so I can bury my face in that ass for a taste?
3/28/2021 1:23 am

Doesn't that just make you weak in the knees??

Personally, I'd rather not have someone's face buried in my ass. At some point, I'd like to kiss those lips and.... Yah, that's not going to happen if I know it's been there.

Just saying....

But, it made me wonder. Do men really think this way? When you see a woman for the first time, are these the types of first thoughts that are running through your mind? When you talk to women, is this what you're picturing?

I talk to a lot of guys during the course of a regular day.... I'm kind of curious how much sexual fantasy goes on behind the scenes that I'm unaware of.

Is it a prevailing theme even in such entities as my former Work BFF, or... work conversationalists such as Nose Hairs? Is this the driving force behind his need to chat with me any spare moment he has?

I'm a curious mind....


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