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Just when you think it's ok....  

secret_lade 48F
14251 posts
11/12/2021 1:41 am
Just when you think it's ok....


It's not.

Yesterday was an emotional day for me.

The Mighty Marine is an active service member, so he is not a veteran yet, but so many people approached me at work yesterday to extend their thanks to him and asked me to pass along their well wishes......

I felt so much pride in him.

There were a couple of times when I felt myself starting to get emotional, but I held it in and kept it cool.

Until I got home, that is.

I spied the Bunny hopping out from behind my shed to say 'Hi' and I lost it.

The rain had started coming down hard and so did the tears. I cried in my car for at least a good five minutes before heading into the house....

I didn't want the Spawn to know I'd cried.

Tilly Cat was at the door waiting, rubbing against my ankles as I hung up my coat, and I couldn't help thinking about how she had waited for days for the Mighty Marine to come home when he had left.

Again I started to cry.

"[Mighty Marine] said not to cry."

"Aaah! You scared me! Why are you texting your brother about this? I just got home."

My phone dinged at this point, it was a message from the Mighty Marine. He said....

Don't worry Ma, I'll call you tomorrow.

It warms my heart to know, even when he's hundreds of miles away, we're all still this close.

I do miss that so much.... And even though most days are good days now, I still miss my little Traveling Trio.

Middle , Spawn, Me

I can't imagine what I'm going to be like next week on his birthday.... It will be the first birthday in 19 years that I didn't get to spend with him.

Wish me luck!

lonlyforlove2 79M  
32704 posts
11/14/2021 2:34 pm

    Quoting secret_lade:
    I've never really thought of myself as the Mighty Marine's Mom.... That's got a ring to it. Mighty Mom.... LOL
You have become the Mighty Marine's Mom, Nothing wrong in saying, "Mighty Mom"... Enjoy it you have earned it!!!!

Stop by at lonlyforlove2
also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow
Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker"
also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'


CL_Love 50M/49F
425 posts
11/14/2021 2:19 pm

((hugs)) momma bear


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/14/2021 6:58 am

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    It's good that you are proud of your son. Many mothers aren't so proud of their offspring!
I'm proud of all of my offspring, even the Spawn.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/14/2021 6:57 am

    Quoting staci_19702:
    Good luck!
    Youngest showed up from college yesterday to surprise me for my birthday. Best present ever. Yep. I shed a tear or two.
That's awesome! That is the best present ever!


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/14/2021 6:56 am

    Quoting BorisBaadinov:
    Thank you for your very poignant story. Brought back so many memories. When I went off to Vietnam, I never thought about the impact that had on my parents. Then my oldest went off to serve, just before Desert Storm. I was flooded with emotions and feelings. I didn’t remember signing up for this when I became a father. The good news is that everyone comes out stronger and more appreciative of what they have as a family. Hang in there, you’ll make it! 😊😊
Thank you for your service! Your parents must have been beside themselves knowing you were going to Vietnam.... Kids don't really think about that aspect of it all. It's ok though, they are just so excited about starting their lives. I remember being that excited.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/14/2021 6:54 am

    Quoting lickeyzsplit:
    Great Job Marine Mom !! It's obvious how well you did raising this young man He is always thinking and keeping in touch with you You should be so Proud of him and You for doing things right !!!! Hats off to all the service men and women and their incredible parents xoxo
Thank you! I may not have been the best mom or made the right decisions all the time.... But I always gave it my very best. I remember on more than one occasion saying to him "I'm your Mom, not your friend. It's my job to make sure you turn out into a decent human being!" LOL This usually followed him grumbling about me being mean for making him clean his room.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/14/2021 6:49 am

    Quoting  :

I have the most perfect kids for me. I do love them so much. In time, I know this will not all feel so raw to me. It didn't help that he left 2 days after graduating from high school, but I did know this would come eventually. Wish me luck on holding the sanity together! LOL


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/14/2021 6:45 am

Thank you


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/14/2021 6:44 am

    Quoting citizen4722:
    No doubt, it being Veterans Day, it made it even more emotional for you.
Oh it totally did. All of those holidays have a different feel to them now, it's hard to get used to it. I just feel differently.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/14/2021 6:43 am

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    Eh...you're going to be a mess on his birthday. How about we send you a truckload of tissues! Oh...and one of those reusable cold gel packs for your eyes.
    Maybe a truckload of virtual hugs, too.
His birthday is this Saturday... And yep, I've already prepared for the fact that I'll be a mess. My daughter's birthday is the day before, on Friday, so I'm hoping I can deflect some of the heartache. I told her to invite a few friends over to stay the night, It will keep me busy and my mind off of the things I don't want to think about, at least until their parents pick them up.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/14/2021 6:41 am

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    Just be proud and let him grow into this " Mighty Marine", He will become the man you will always be proud of.. You will have many more birthdays in the future, each will be better. Take a deep breath and just be the proud Mighty Marine's mom that you are..
I've never really thought of myself as the Mighty Marine's Mom.... That's got a ring to it. Mighty Mom.... LOL


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/14/2021 6:40 am

    Quoting Quiet53man:
    you know what, crying is ok, tears of joy, pride, relief, sadness, better to get it out vs keep those strong feelings inside. My son was in service, then school then family and work, this year we will be able to share his B day with him for the first time in 12 years, I can relate to some of your feelings. Hey you son is launched, on his own and doing well, something to be so proud of and relieved, he will make it on his own in the future which is bright for him. Hang in there, from your blogs you have worked through much and come out ahead with more adventures in your future.
You are right, I am SO proud of him. In a lot of ways, he is just like me. Kindhearted, independent, and strong.... I have no worries about his future as he is making wise decisions and getting education everywhere that he can right now for him to use when the day comes that he is not in the military anymore. Whether it be 4 yours or retirement.... I have worked through a lot, with the help of my blog and my readers. I always appreciate the feedback, sometimes it helps to get a second set of eyes.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/14/2021 6:35 am

    Quoting MrRareity:
    Your son is growing up and is a man who you should be proud of for his accomplishments. Remember he might be gone but he's still with you, and only a phone call away. He may not be considered a veteran but to me he is and I thank him for his service. Your daughter or spawn as you call her is insightful that she call her brother to tell him about you. You have done a very good job of raising your children. Remember it's okay to cry and let it out. I do think that crying is good for the soul. secret_lade, you are a very good woman and I'm so fortunate to have come across your blog. Hugs, John
Thank you John, you always have the kindest things to say to me. I am so appreciative, I'm glad you found my blog too.


MrRareity 62M  
4589 posts
11/13/2021 7:11 am

Your son is growing up and is a man who you should be proud of for his accomplishments. Remember he might be gone but he's still with you, and only a phone call away. He may not be considered a veteran but to me he is and I thank him for his service. Your daughter or spawn as you call her is insightful that she call her brother to tell him about you. You have done a very good job of raising your children. Remember it's okay to cry and let it out. I do think that crying is good for the soul. secret_lade, you are a very good woman and I'm so fortunate to have come across your blog. Hugs, John

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


Quiet53man 62M
15 posts
11/13/2021 1:45 am

you know what, crying is ok, tears of joy, pride, relief, sadness, better to get it out vs keep those strong feelings inside. My son was in service, then school then family and work, this year we will be able to share his B day with him for the first time in 12 years, I can relate to some of your feelings. Hey you son is launched, on his own and doing well, something to be so proud of and relieved, he will make it on his own in the future which is bright for him. Hang in there, from your blogs you have worked through much and come out ahead with more adventures in your future.


lonlyforlove2 79M  
32704 posts
11/12/2021 7:17 pm

Just be proud and let him grow into this " Mighty Marine", He will become the man you will always be proud of.. You will have many more birthdays in the future, each will be better. Take a deep breath and just be the proud Mighty Marine's mom that you are..

Stop by at lonlyforlove2
also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow
Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker"
also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'


pagancountrygirl 65F
6466 posts
11/12/2021 3:56 pm

Eh...you're going to be a mess on his birthday. How about we send you a truckload of tissues! Oh...and one of those reusable cold gel packs for your eyes.
Maybe a truckload of virtual hugs, too.

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


citizen4722 64M  
74582 posts
11/12/2021 2:27 pm

No doubt, it being Veterans Day, it made it even more emotional for you.


fun1md 46M

11/12/2021 12:25 pm

best of luck!


lickeyzsplit 60M  
1516 posts
11/12/2021 6:33 am

Great Job Marine Mom !! It's obvious how well you did raising this young man He is always thinking and keeping in touch with you You should be so Proud of him and You for doing things right !!!! Hats off to all the service men and women and their incredible parents xoxo


hogknot 56M
1059 posts
11/12/2021 5:38 am

Good luck


BorisBaadinov 100M

11/12/2021 5:00 am

Thank you for your very poignant story. Brought back so many memories. When I went off to Vietnam, I never thought about the impact that had on my parents. Then my oldest went off to serve, just before Desert Storm. I was flooded with emotions and feelings. I didn’t remember signing up for this when I became a father. The good news is that everyone comes out stronger and more appreciative of what they have as a family. Hang in there, you’ll make it! 😊😊


funsnellvillecpl 65M/52F  
3901 posts
11/12/2021 4:47 am

Semper Fi , Gunny


staci_19702 52T  
3767 posts
11/12/2021 3:34 am

Good luck!
Youngest showed up from college yesterday to surprise me for my birthday. Best present ever. Yep. I shed a tear or two.

Have a great day! 💋
Staci


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
11/12/2021 3:24 am

It's good that you are proud of your son. Many mothers aren't so proud of their offspring!


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
11/12/2021 1:41 am

It's not.

Yesterday was an emotional day for me.

The Mighty Marine is an active service member, so he is not a veteran yet, but so many people approached me at work yesterday to extend their thanks to him and asked me to pass along their well wishes......

I felt so much pride in him.

There were a couple of times when I felt myself starting to get emotional, but I held it in and kept it cool.

Until I got home, that is.

I spied the Bunny hopping out from behind my shed to say 'Hi' and I lost it.

The rain had started coming down hard and so did the tears. I cried in my car for at least a good five minutes before heading into the house....

I didn't want the Spawn to know I'd cried.

Tilly Cat was at the door waiting, rubbing against my ankles as I hung up my coat, and I couldn't help thinking about how she had waited for days for the Mighty Marine to come home when he had left.

Again I started to cry.

"[Mighty Marine] said not to cry."

"Aaah! You scared me! Why are you texting your brother about this? I just got home."

My phone dinged at this point, it was a message from the Mighty Marine. He said....

Don't worry Ma, I'll call you tomorrow.

It warms my heart to know, even when he's hundreds of miles away, we're all still this close.

I do miss that kid so much.... And even though most days are good days now, I still miss my little Traveling Trio.

Middle Son, Spawn, Me

I can't imagine what I'm going to be like next week on his birthday.... It will be the first birthday in 19 years that I didn't get to spend with him.

Wish me luck!


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