Me? Falling apart at the seams??  

secret_lade 46F
10897 posts
4/8/2021 3:46 am
Me? Falling apart at the seams??

Never.....

Nothing like a little mid-life crisis to make things interesting!!

The Middle received his cap and gown in the mail this week.... Graduation Day is looming ever closer.

I've shed so, so many tears....

His new chapter is starting soon and he excitedly awaits that next step and I'm literally dying inside at the mere thought.

Every step we take toward his independence feels like a giant leap to me.

It's been a month of change.

He is now independently insured, no longer is he on my car insurance policy. This is the last month he will be bundled into my cell phone group, going forward, wherever he goes, he has that responsibility. I was not notified of his most recent dental appointment as he was now 18 and I didn't need to be present.

I am so proud!

But, I am so scared.... I am so scared because I don't know what life will be like without him. I am scared that I can't protect him. I'm scared to let him go....

But I will.

Be prepared readers....

The next 8 weeks are likely to be an emotional rollercoaster for me and you'll probably get a ring-side seat to it all as I share my crazy here.



69ereatwetpussy 58M
4957 posts
4/10/2021 5:38 am

Nothing too be scared of if you know your son can do it on his own
Nothing to be scared of if you trust him to make the right decision.
You did your best now it's up to him to be who he is.
We all grew up and did what we did.
That's one reason I didn't want kids .
Was u wrong could be
Yet I'm do see good kid s and lots of bad one .
What is your to you will he make it on his own knowing him.
Just wait and see will he call you come home for Sunday dinner you will love that.

My friend son left home move to Georgia never calls home and it was not over a fight or anything it just how the kid is. Don't even call his Dad. Working and a Gamer all he does.

Hope your worries are for not. Xoxox besides you have the other to worry more about. Xoxxoxo


xist4more 51M
58 posts
4/9/2021 11:05 am

The more engaged in this you are while still being a distant presence in his life, the better you both will be.

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Quiet53man 60M
11 posts
4/9/2021 1:46 am

Hang in there, I have been through similar times, the last one to leave the nest was the most difficult for me. Mine went from high school straight into the military, which in his case was the best thing that could have happened. (he is now in the medical field and owes less than ten grand thanks to GI bill)
Consider this, you son will now, more than ever, come to understand and come to be thankful for you being a mom and not a friend.
Downside, your daughter is going to get 100 percent of your focus, yikes no more buffer for her when you have split vision.
Breath, relax, don't do anything in anger, breath, count to ten before making loud noises directed at someone.


secret_lade 46F
6854 posts
4/8/2021 3:05 pm

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    I can't help but wonder if some of the problems you've had with Spawn lately are due to your son's soon to be absence. Hopefully you'll both work through this difficult time. You've done a wonderful job raising him and it will be exciting to see how he continues to grow and mature!
I'm sure some of it is.... When I got home from work tonight there was a slice of pizza on the table for me, he picks his sister up from school every day and drops her off before he heads off to his job. At least once a week he picks up food too. So, I saw the pizza, and I said "Aww.... Pizza. What are we going to do without your brother." And, I got teary eyed. My daughter said, "We'll be ok mom. I promise." She's a smart girl.


topherific 58M
4907 posts
4/8/2021 10:12 am


pagancountrygirl 63F
5674 posts
4/8/2021 9:10 am

I can't help but wonder if some of the problems you've had with Spawn lately are due to your son's soon to be absence. Hopefully you'll both work through this difficult time. You've done a wonderful job raising him and it will be exciting to see how he continues to grow and mature!

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


citizen4722 63M  
71008 posts
4/8/2021 9:10 am

I'm not a parent, so I don't go through the good and bad stuff.
Your son is doing what he wants too and you've prepared him very well for that.


author51 58F
112723 posts
4/8/2021 8:35 am

I can relate as I am sure we all can here with kids. Our parents went through it with us and leaving the nest to start our own chapters of the Book Of Life. We eventually get used to the house becoming silent and having more time for ourselves, while the kids grow up, have their own life experiences and we in turn when knowing we did our job right, pray that they have learned some valuable lessons to carry them onward and upward..

You can never have enough JOY in your life....xoxo

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Massass1963 57M  
1395 posts
4/8/2021 6:48 am

I have two daughters that both are now on their own. The strange thing about kids, is if they DON'T grow and attain independence, we worry they will remain dependent on us. What if something were to happen to us? Would they survive? On the other hand, if they DO gain independence, we "lose" them. Truth of it is that we don't really lose them. As a good mother, your kids will at some point (sooner than you think) look for opportunities to visit and/or stay in touch. the house will be a bit emptier. It can possibly even help with the relationship of your remaining kids. They unlikely will admit it, but they too will miss their siblings. Your daughter may look to you for more company. Even if not, we all manage to survive what is a sad AND happy time. You want him to gain independence really, but it is a bit hard on us as parents! Kids can't understand....until THEY are parents!!


Blueyedguy823 54M  
793 posts
4/8/2021 6:30 am

I keep thinking these are things I'll celebrate with my older teen. I know there will be a different feeling as I actually go through them. Just a couple years away...


lov2suk1969 51M  
59 posts
4/8/2021 6:10 am

if you raised him right he will be ok out there in the world... an i think you probably did a great job in raisng him be proud and be suportive


WyoCowboy7751 67M
1484 posts
4/8/2021 6:08 am

"But, I am so scared.... I am so scared because I don't know what life will be like without him. I am scared that I can't protect him. I'm scared to let him go.... "
Sounds like the way my wife & I were with Daughter going too Basic
NOT meant too throw a wrench in the fan but just Life's Experience !!!
All of that changed years later as she was getting prepared for marriage & again when first grand child was expected !!
Several years later , I now have 2 FANTASTIC grand-kids ; a boy & a girl


Paulxx001 64M
18956 posts
4/8/2021 4:54 am

When my kids left to pursue their professional lives, I noticed that the lineup for the bathroom was substantially shorter. 😶


1seeking1 55F
3502 posts
4/8/2021 4:53 am

It is natural, and we hope we have prepared them enough. They know where we are if they need anything.


secret_lade 46F
6854 posts
4/8/2021 4:49 am

    Quoting Granny872:
    I feel for you. Kids growing up and moving on are the natural order of things but that doesn't mean the emotional tugs won't hurt.

    You will do fine.
It'll be one of the biggest challenges I've faced.... but you're right. I'll get through it and it will be ok.


secret_lade 46F
6854 posts
4/8/2021 4:47 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    El Douche and the g-girls are moving out on the 16th. I'm excited for the change in my life. It's long over due.
You'll finally get your life back! Good for you!


Granny872 68F  
3567 posts
4/8/2021 4:35 am

I feel for you. Kids growing up and moving on are the natural order of things but that doesn't mean the emotional tugs won't hurt.

You will do fine.

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mc_justmc 60M  
6567 posts
4/8/2021 4:09 am

El Douche and the g-girls are moving out on the 16th. I'm excited for the change in my life. It's long over due.


secret_lade 46F
6854 posts
4/8/2021 3:48 am

Never.....

Nothing like a little mid-life crisis to make things interesting!!

The Middle Son received his cap and gown in the mail this week.... Graduation Day is looming ever closer.

I've shed so, so many tears....

His new chapter is starting soon and he excitedly awaits that next step and I'm literally dying inside at the mere thought.

Every step we take toward his independence feels like a giant leap to me.

It's been a month of change.

He is now independently insured, no longer is he on my car insurance policy. This is the last month he will be bundled into my cell phone group, going forward, wherever he goes, he has that responsibility. I was not notified of his most recent dental appointment as he was now 18 and I didn't need to be present.

I am so proud!

But, I am so scared.... I am so scared because I don't know what life will be like without him. I am scared that I can't protect him. I'm scared to let him go....

But I will.

Be prepared readers....

The next 8 weeks are likely to be an emotional rollercoaster for me and you'll probably get a ring-side seat to it all as I share my crazy here.


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