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This week...  

secret_lade 48F
14251 posts
8/24/2021 2:54 am
This week...


This week my Boot Camp Boy becomes a Marine.

Needless to say, I'm all sorts of crazy emotional.

He is facing the Crucible, the final challenge that transitions that recruit into a Marine.

I am beyond proud of him, words can't even describe. I only wish I could be there to see him march onto that parade deck Saturday morning and receive his eagle, globe, and anchor.

I have just one more work week until I leave to see him graduate.

I've never been so excited for something in my entire life.

I was not ready to let him go yet, but the thing is, I probably never would be no matter what the circumstance.

And, I find myself thinking back to a conversation I'd had with my oldest when he was 24. He'd wanted to transfer to Colorado and I had talked him out of it.

I told him it was too far away, what if he needed my help? I wouldn't be there to just bail him out of his shenanigans.

He's always deeply embroiled in some sort of mischief.....

I think I should have let him go.

My mother instincts tell me to hang on tight, protect those babies and keep them close. They need me!

They deserve to spread those wings, though.... No matter how difficult it is for that Momma.

And, I'm here to say, it IS difficult.

It is the Ultimate Mother Challenge!

Motherhood Crucible

Three

Two of them Adults

One Spawn of Satan

Will I pass that final challenge??

Only time will tell....

citizen4722 64M  
74582 posts
8/25/2021 8:41 am

You've not held your son back and he would thank you from the bottom of his heart for that.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 2:12 am

    Quoting Avonsenior:
    Good Luck to you and your son
    Being a parent is not easy. Sometimes you have to let the kids do what they want and watch from the sidelines. I had some friends after high school move to Florida. That sounded like fun to them and most of them were back within the first year to stay closer to home.
Two days after I graduated from high school I moved 3 hours away from home.... And never went back. He's a lot like me, I know he'll be ok.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 2:05 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    By the time the Spawn comes of age you may be pushing her out the door!
Ha ha ha I told her the other day, when I drop her off at college, it'll likely be a rolling stop. 'Tuck and Roll' She didn't think I was funny, but I laughed pretty hard.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 2:04 am

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    Though not a parent, I can imagine how difficult it is for a mother to let their kids go their way in the world.
    My Mum ensured I didn't end up on my Dad's farm by sending me to boarding school - she was cruel (at the time) to be kind (now appreciated)!
One of my coworkers went to a boarding school. His dad had died at an early age and his mom didn't want him to grow up being a 'mommas boy'. For the life of me, I can't imagine sending my kids away like that, but he said it was some of his best memories being at school.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 2:01 am

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    Seems to me McLade that whichever challenge you've been presented with you've tackled it head on and have come out the other side better for it!!
Thank you! I'd like to think so too!


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 2:00 am

    Quoting lickeyzsplit:
    Oh my ! Will you pass the final challenge ? I think you will fly through it soaring like the Eagle mother you are the perfect Raptor parent ! In time time you will be rewarded with grandkids visits and time well spent with your kids ... That will be your acknowledgement of a job well done !!! Congrats to your son!! God Bless !!
Thank you!! I'm looking forward to the grandkid phase.... I miss snuggling with little ones.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 1:57 am

    Quoting justskin1:
    It is hard being a parent and part of it is the letting go. I remember my Mom once saying that no matter how old they get you don't stop caring/worrying about them and she was in her 80s when she said it.
She spoke the truth! The worries are different types of worries, but they are still there!


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 1:55 am

    Quoting benard69:
    Wow that Boot Camp time flew by...Give him a Giant hug and Congrats!
For me, it hasn't flown by.... It has felt like time came to a crawl. I will definitely be giving him a giant hug.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 1:53 am

    Quoting Weeload2:
    Darn right you should be proud. You will be filled with so much emotion when you get to be with him. Try not to melt when you see him in full uniform !

    ♫ Big wheel keep on turnin', proud Mary keep on burnin ♫ ~ Tina Turner

    ~Wee~

In one of his last letters he was bragging about how good he looks in his dress blues. (They had uniform fittings last week and the week before.) LOL I'm pretty sure I'll be the other kind of mom who is embarrassingly loud, ugly crying about how proud I am. Yikes!


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 1:49 am

    Quoting CL_Love:
    I'm gonna have to kick my oldest out of the nest. He doesn't want to leave the creature comforts of living at home and work hard enough to do it all alone. His sister, on the other hand, will leave for college in a year and probably won't even give me a backward glance. None of it is easy. Sigh. Hugs.
My daughter will be doing the college thing.... I can only imagine what kind of emotional collapse I'll have when she's gone. LOL


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 1:42 am

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    Take several boxes of tissues. Or maybe a couple of towels. You'll make it through. You may also need some eye drops. And ice cream.
I have a travel box of tissues in my car. I got teary eyed the other morning when I was dropping my daughter off at her dad's and plucked one out.

"Oh my god mom, really?"
"What??"
"You've got them strategically placed now in the car now?"

What a stinker!


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 1:36 am

    Quoting boobwhisperer69:
    Just eat the last one and take that road trip!!! HeHe
I have a feeling she'd be a bit mangy and bitter..... A lil like roadkill. LOL


boobwhisperer69 59M  
8322 posts
8/24/2021 9:43 pm

Just eat the last one and take that road trip!!! HeHe


pagancountrygirl 65F
6466 posts
8/24/2021 2:40 pm

Take several boxes of tissues. Or maybe a couple of towels. You'll make it through. You may also need some eye drops. And ice cream.

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


CL_Love 50M/49F
425 posts
8/24/2021 6:35 am

I'm gonna have to kick my oldest out of the nest. He doesn't want to leave the creature comforts of living at home and work hard enough to do it all alone. His sister, on the other hand, will leave for college in a year and probably won't even give me a backward glance. None of it is easy. Sigh. Hugs.


Weeload2 59M
1104 posts
8/24/2021 5:58 am

Darn right you should be proud. You will be filled with so much emotion when you get to be with him. Try not to melt when you see him in full uniform !

♫ Big wheel keep on turnin', proud Mary keep on burnin ♫ ~ Tina Turner

~Wee~


𝕋𝕙𝕒𝕟𝕜𝕤 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕓𝕖𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕪𝕠𝕦


benard69 64M/64F  
6298 posts
8/24/2021 5:51 am

Wow that Boot Camp time flew by...Give him a Giant hug and Congrats!


justskin1 70M
13175 posts
8/24/2021 5:17 am

It is hard being a parent and part of it is the letting go. I remember my Mom once saying that no matter how old they get you don't stop caring/worrying about them and she was in her 80s when she said it.

If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin."

I always behave. Preferably not well.


lickeyzsplit 60M  
1516 posts
8/24/2021 5:05 am

Oh my ! Will you pass the final challenge ? I think you will fly through it soaring like the Eagle mother you are the perfect Raptor parent ! In time time you will be rewarded with grandkids visits and time well spent with your kids ... That will be your acknowledgement of a job well done !!! Congrats to your son!! God Bless !!


lindoboy100 59M  
23969 posts
8/24/2021 4:53 am

Seems to me McLade that whichever challenge you've been presented with you've tackled it head on and have come out the other side better for it!!


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
8/24/2021 4:21 am

Though not a parent, I can imagine how difficult it is for a mother to let their kids go their way in the world.
My Mum ensured I didn't end up on my Dad's farm by sending me to boarding school - she was cruel (at the time) to be kind (now appreciated)!


mc_justmc 62M
6929 posts
8/24/2021 4:12 am

By the time the Spawn comes of age you may be pushing her out the door!


Avonsenior 69M  
1461 posts
8/24/2021 3:52 am

Good Luck to you and your son
Being a parent is not easy. Sometimes you have to let the kids do what they want and watch from the sidelines. I had some friends after high school move to Florida. That sounded like fun to them and most of them were back within the first year to stay closer to home.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/24/2021 2:55 am

This week my Boot Camp Boy becomes a Marine.

Needless to say, I'm all sorts of crazy emotional.

He is facing the Crucible, the final challenge that transitions that recruit into a Marine.

I am beyond proud of him, words can't even describe. I only wish I could be there to see him march onto that parade deck Saturday morning and receive his eagle, globe, and anchor.

I have just one more work week until I leave to see him graduate.

I've never been so excited for something in my entire life.

I was not ready to let him go yet, but the thing is, I probably never would be no matter what the circumstance.

And, I find myself thinking back to a conversation I'd had with my oldest son when he was 24. He'd wanted to transfer to Colorado and I had talked him out of it.

I told him it was too far away, what if he needed my help? I wouldn't be there to just bail him out of his shenanigans.

He's always deeply embroiled in some sort of mischief.....

I think I should have let him go.

My mother instincts tell me to hang on tight, protect those babies and keep them close. They need me!

They deserve to spread those wings, though.... No matter how difficult it is for that Momma.

And, I'm here to say, it IS difficult.

It is the Ultimate Mother Challenge!

Motherhood Crucible

Three Children

Two of them Adults

One Spawn of Satan

Will I pass that final challenge??

Only time will tell....


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