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Ghosting......really?
Posted:Jul 24, 2021 11:23 am
Last Updated:Nov 22, 2021 9:51 am
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It's been like 5 years since I have blogged here and although I have become pretty good at weeding out the fakes, flakes and liars, there is one thing that just baffles me about the whole online thing...GHOSTING.

For me personally, when I am no longer interested or I know a connection isn't going to work out or I just want to meet someone else, I DO NOT GHOST people. It seems like this should be common sense, oh wait this is TSdates.com....my bad. Respect and human decency is in short supply around here, I understand that part of this whole silly process of chatting, flirting online, sending naughty pics, meeting for coffee/drink, checking the chemistry and ultimately ending up ripping each other's clothes off is a process.

Part of the process is just understanding that more often than not, two people will not connect after the initial conversations or even after meeting. This is part of the game.....rejection and reality are part of the process. I have been rejected more times than I care to admit and while it sucks to be told that someone else who you like does not have the same feelings, it is WAY better than being ghosted like you weren't even a thought in their head. Brad Pitt put it best in the movie "Moneyball" when he said- "Would you rather take one to the head, or five to the chest and bleed to death?" Yup pretty much dead on.

I mean jesus people, you don't even have to say it face to face or over the phone like in the old days lol YOU CAN TEXT IT.....To just leave someone hanging is selfish, cowardly, inconsiderate and just plain rude.

Now I also understand that if there is a safety issue or you feel threatened or that you are trying to be discreet and you think you know them or they know your friends....that might constitute a good ghosting......

Now I am not talking about ghosting someone after like a few sentences where your gut tell you this isn't gonna work or even after a photo swap where you are like "oh hell no". Still not the best move, but at least you haven't created a rapport or connection with that person. The relationship has not been created really and to me, that's not a huge deal, although I don't condone it.....actually it should be easier to say "no thanks, not interested" at this point.

Case in point.... I met someone a few weeks ago on a business trip. We had been talking for a few weeks,....sent plenty of face pics, naughty pics, a lil sexting, teasing and I thought we generally liked each other. She agreed to meet for dinner.....we had a nice time, pleasant ongoing conversation about our lives, great eye contact, a little flirting and nice hugs at the end. She asked if I was free tomorrow and what my schedule was like......We agreed to text and figure out what would work to get together the next day.....then the next morning POOF....she was gone.......no explanation, no "oh I'm sorry, just not really into you", or damn I have to work, nothing after 3 weeks of solid, ongoing conversation.

Now I have been here long enough to know that I now needed to move on, which I have in fairly short order cause past experience has taught me to not trust anyone I meet here lol. But it still stings and it pisses me off when people just vanish. What is hilarious about this instance though is that she was all about saying "ohh I NEVER ghost....people who do that show who they really are...blah blah blah" lol At least I got to see who she was.

Now before anyone says "Well you don't know what happened" or "maybe she got in an accident" or "maybe she was married and her hubs found out" etc etc etc....yea I get it, we don't always know circumstances and you have to give people the benefit of the doubt at times, but ghosting someone without so much as a 30 second text is beyond rude. I usually give people the "3 strikes and your out" rule. Anything after that is my own fault and I deserve to be made a fool of.

Ok rant over.......do people a favor and just MAN UP.....gimme that bullet in the head and let me move on with my life if you need to. You're doing people a favor by being honest.

Comment if you want but be nice.....you don't have to agree, but don't be an ass.

Have fun out there and be safe!

SGG
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The top 5 things I've learned in my 5+ years on this site...
Posted:Mar 28, 2017 8:32 pm
Last Updated:Jul 24, 2021 8:55 pm
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So....First of all let me say that I have had my share of fun times with some very cool women from TSdates.com. After a lot of getting stood up, faked out, and teased over and over and over again, I finally found a formula that works for me and I thought I would share some thoughts....(Some of these might be fairly obvious but here goes...)

Oh one thing...These are generalizations and do not apply to everyone, so do me a favor and save the drama...just read and enjoy.

1. SAVE IT......Guys, Most women on here do NOT want to see your cock in the first, second or third conversation (whether online or in person) Most women I have had the pleasure of meeting and playing with on here over the years want someone they can at least talk to in a regular kind of way (EVEN IF THEY JUST WANT NSA) Trust me....no matter how big or thick you think it is, if you want to talk to and eventually meet for fun with someone you are attracted to, Save the cock shots for when they ASK for them.

2. BE RESPECTFUL....Even if a woman wants to be treated like a sex object, cum slut, a dog, or whatever....Do so respectfully.....She is still human. Call her by her name...if you meet...LOOK INTO HER EYES.....LISTEN to what she says, you might learn something. If she stops chatting or texting after you have met and had some fun, GET OVER IT....its a sex site, not Match.com

3. MAN UP!...... If you get into a situation and you somehow for whatever reason decide she isnt for you.. TELL HER! TELL HER! TELL HER!! Text her, IM her, email her, call her....Do whatever you have to to not lead her on. When you guys stand women up and waste their time cause you have no balls or you have no clue how to use a calendar...You fuck it up for yourself not to mention the REST OF US. So stop it....seriously. When you fake or flake....its bad for the whole TSdates.com community.

4. GOOD THINGS CUM TO THOSE WHO WAIT....Great sex is like a fine wine, it takes TIME to develop. A lot of women here want to at least get to know some stuff about you. They want CHEMISTRY, not just cock. So don't just start out using lame lines like "Hey wanna fuck?" or "Can I come over and let you suck my cock?" Would you say that to a lady face to face, I seriously doubt it and if you would, you're an idiot. I'm not saying you have to wine and dine her, no. I have had experiences that ended with a wonderful romp in the sheets after the first hour of meeting and having coffee BUT there was ALWAYS a connection that took some time to develop. So take your time, if they like you, they aren't going anywhere.

5. The most important thing I have learned....DON'T LIE..EVENTUALLY THEY WILL FIND OUT... Cause guess what fellas THEY ARE SMARTER THAN WE ARE! Women love honesty, and the most important thing for great sex is if they know the truth...You don't have to reveal every little secret about your life, but if she asks, tell the truth. Almost EVERY woman I have met on here regardless of what or who they are looking for want the TRUTH....to most women, Truth is an aphrodisiac that will make you sexier than the liar with a great body....Seriously. I know this FIRST hand....

So there you have it, my top 5. Be safe, have fun and most of all, use common sense and don't be a dick.

If you care to comment, please do so respectfully so I don't have to kick you out. Thanks!
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