Single or Married  

tnrebelchic75 46F
533 posts
7/14/2020 5:00 am

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Single or Married

I realize there is more to this than just what anyone thinks, but it does make me wonder how many of you prefer the risk of me being married or would prefer me have the freedom of a single
Stay Married and Cheating
Get Divorced and Be Free

Blondie8Dagwood 73M/65F  
7 posts
10/16/2020 12:05 pm

If you tell him it may easily get you to the divorce. It may however be a relief to him knowing he doesn't have to provide for some of your needs. Could turn into a blessing....

Yesus172 72M
14 posts
8/21/2020 11:11 pm

Todo depende de lo que quieras hacer,si no te sientes bien con tu marido divorciate,si solo quieres divertirte con otros y seguir con tu marido porque lo amas,pues diviértete.

dark141552 30M
17 posts
8/19/2020 10:57 pm

Merry Christmass lol

dark141552 30M
17 posts
8/19/2020 10:53 pm

I don't like bull shite

lo3ver 62M/62F
3 posts
8/18/2020 6:48 am

Depends on 3 things, simplifying a lot..
- How much do you love your spouse, and can you talk to him/her about your needs
- Do you have young kids
- Money... can you go it alone?

Chuck697469 47M
9 posts
8/16/2020 2:11 am

I would check with my wife

Nikk5772 21M
2 posts
8/9/2020 2:41 am

Love any mild or wife who wants to discreetly meet

Funsun4cpl 67M
7 posts
8/8/2020 2:12 pm

Some women just like variety, it excites them. I like a married woman with at least one other married boyfriend, regular married 3somes are wet, wild and super fun.

openguy4kink 51M
5 posts
8/6/2020 4:47 pm

Whatever floats your boat. You should get your man Have him.please you and do something naughty that makes you hot.

Shybuttfun90 31M
11 posts
8/5/2020 12:39 pm

Varies by situation. Sometimes the relationship is fine aside from sex. So why rock the boat? Just safely get what you need without dragging him into it

69ereatwetpussy 59M
6180 posts
8/5/2020 7:00 am

Something on the side is fine so long as you know what you want.
Doing with another married man you but know that's as far as it goes but you get what you want and go home to what you have.

Trexxmexx 51M
5 posts
7/30/2020 2:50 pm

mmmmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmmm

suesteve14 47M/44F
8 posts
7/28/2020 6:09 pm

you come first and foremost

allaboutfun250 52M
14 posts
7/28/2020 4:31 pm

If he isn't meeting your needs, then he deserves to be cheated on because you are a beautiful sexy woman. You can visit me in Maryland anytime.

Massass1963 58M

7/28/2020 2:10 pm

Playing with married women is very risky. Who is to say your hubby won't flip out and assault or kill either YOU or your playmate. For us guys on here, we don't know if your hubby is REALLY okay with it or not....until too late, if he isn't. For that reason I prefer single women.
The one NICE thing about married is that generally, if they aren't looking to be divorced, will be both discreet and not expecting more than play. Most guys here are looking just for fun, not an LTR

firemedic6150 58M
5 posts
7/28/2020 2:09 pm

Enjoy yourself. The ones complaining about cheating are just jealous. If you ever travel my way look me up.

want2meetasap 60M
21 posts
7/28/2020 7:37 am

every situation is unique. but cheating there is usually no commitment or attachment. its about the fun and thrill of sex without anything expected after.

bandit5_0 51M
79 posts
7/28/2020 6:37 am

If you are married and cheating you are the sorriest piece of shit on the face of the earth. Grow up and get a fucking divorce so you can get away from from the shit storm YOU got yourself into. Nothing wrong at all if you have sex with others AND YOUR SPOUSE APPROVES IT.....NOT JUST OK WITH IT BUT ACTUALLY APPROVES IT. When I was younger I dated a woman who was in an open marriage - learned ALOT about how that dynamic can work successfully - sad to say I have yet to meet anyone else who can pull it off as good as they did. For that reason and the fact that people can end of getting killed over that shit I avoid married women all together.

dessertgarden 51F
32 posts
7/27/2020 11:16 pm

not knowing the specifics of your situation, I shall refrain from voting but comment. I am currently married, asexual situation that he wasn't honest about before marriage. i waited many dry and emotionally empty years before making the decision to cheat and when I did, i told him, it really didn't change much in our lives.

i guess my advice would be to identify the ability and opportunity for open communication, perhaps poly is the more appropriate route or approach. if the marriage is open to the discussion of having a partner or partners who are able to satisfy needs not being met within the marriage itself. good luck to you

newbieinco 59M  
18 posts
7/27/2020 7:36 pm

In a somewhat similar dilemma. Love my wife, but not able to get what I need (loving touch even more than sex). Haven't actually cheated, yet, but intellectually willing to (hence my being on this site).
That being said, if you are in my neck of the woods, give me a holler. I'll take you to dinner, and we can talk.

this52isacrock 68M  
5 posts
7/27/2020 2:39 pm

Whatever works for you. I prefer married women because I think there is a lesser chance of STD's. The thrill is greater too.

IMaMagikman 35M
119 posts
7/26/2020 11:52 pm

Voted. Everyone has their thing.

Bonnie_N_Clyde79 49M/42F  
9 posts
7/26/2020 6:44 pm

My wife plays with married men frequently. We find it easier. They are more interested in sexual fun without an emotional attachment. SIngle people are generally lonely and need more than sexual fun.

I have also played with several married women. Picture here is of the last one. She’s a blast!

urjourneyman2 66M  
7 posts
7/26/2020 6:37 pm

I have dated married women in the past and found that I get turned on being with another mans wife.

Ubsurprised81 40M
40 posts
7/26/2020 11:13 am

Everyone has their own thoughts when playing but I think it’s more of the thrill for ones I have been with

tastemeY 55M  
129 posts
7/25/2020 7:32 am

The last 2 girls I've met on here are both married. One is cheating, and the other,,,,,,,,, well I guess she's cheating too but her husband is much older, and not interested in sex anymore so she's getting what she's missing at home.

zxasxz46 63M
1 post
7/24/2020 7:28 pm

Hot as you are either way, wow

Lucky010101 116M
1 post
7/24/2020 2:01 pm

Medical reasons prevent having sex with my wife, so when opportunity knocks, I answer....

3200Ram 40M
210 posts
7/24/2020 4:03 am

it's depend on partner .. some partner allow to sex with others.

perkerlee 71M
4 posts
7/23/2020 11:27 am

    No need to cheat and feel guilty later. Patience will reward you with tranquility and freedom from a commitment to become free. Wait as men will always be lined up for you.
same reason Mormons have multiples

mike1958773 63M
945 posts
7/22/2020 9:00 pm

pienso que ser libre es la mejor alternativa pero casado no me gustaría engañar si me caso ya no se vale poner el cuerno hay que aceptar la responsabilidad de mi acto

wannarock2006 56M  
9 posts
7/22/2020 5:11 pm

Why stay with someone you don't want to be with?

8 posts
7/21/2020 10:29 am

No need to cheat and feel guilty later. Patience will reward you with tranquility and freedom from a commitment to become free. Wait as men will always be lined up for you.

BICoupleNM 53M/56F  
4 posts
7/20/2020 10:30 pm

I have been in the lifestyle for 25 years and I have seen some horrible things come out of cheat situations. This is why we do not play with anyone who is in a cheat situation no matter how much we would love to play with them.

Lance_Goodthrust 64M
346 posts
7/20/2020 9:28 pm

Congrats on your new job.
If the travels ever take you up to western Canada, let me know.
I would love to show you around my part of the country. There are lots of sights to see.... lol.

spwildbill77 63M  
83 posts
7/20/2020 9:17 am

I find it ironic that so many state "Freedom" like it were all or nothing. In this day and age, you are free to do what you want. You can have your freedom and still be married. Sex becomes a recreational sport for fun...enjoy the moments when they occur. If you become obsessed with it, maybe that will become a problem. It CAN be more exciting if you include your spouse but not necessarily. You can flirt and fantasize and if you happen across someone who, at that moment is on the same page as you...knowing it is meaningless and just for it. Enjoy yourself. If you have doubts or guilt...then it's not for you.

Jdhot4Tg 57M  
1210 posts
7/19/2020 4:44 pm

be free dont cheat

Sandi2346 72M
14 posts
7/19/2020 12:49 pm

I am a single male. I really shouldn't comment. I do find a lot of couples that swing or the woman says she is free to do what she wants. When I was young I never crossed the line with married women. Now I would.

avgkinkster 54M
69 posts
7/18/2020 1:01 pm

Choose your freedom. I suppose there are other considerations but if all things are equal I would get the divorce and be free. If you’re cheating there’s always the consequence that another family member finds out. If you have an open relationship with your spouse that’s fine but if there are kids involved it’s a whole other complicated game. Total downer freedom and Honesty are probably always a good bet.

Open2Fun2020 55M
33 posts
7/17/2020 6:25 pm

I voted for freedom. Just a personal choice or preference with me. Unless you know everything about a married person and their situation (hard to do if you're just meeting them) it can be full of surprises, not all good. You just don't know. It's not in any way a judgement of anyone, I'm not against it at all, like I said it's just my personal preference.
But 007 James Bond preferred married women and he seemed to have a pretty good life!

nudeatdaranch 55M  
7 posts
7/17/2020 7:29 am

I would say move on. Cheating or "open" relationships just seems to lead to further inconvenient issues,afaic. Been there,done that. One or the other gets too much, the other partner left in the cold, and in some cases even unwanted pregnancies, as I've a friend in that situation. Too much hassle for my taste! IMHO.

CokAdoodleDude 32M

7/17/2020 7:28 am

freeeeeeeedoooooooooommmmmmmmuhhhhhhhh !!!!!!!!!!

South55337 54M

7/17/2020 6:47 am

Why not just have an honest conversation of your needs and open up your marriage?

xNewsPhotog 59M  
241 posts
7/17/2020 3:22 am

If you still love him, but NEED sex I say stay.
If your need for sex is too much for him and it is leading to trouble then get out while you can.
Either way, I certainly would not turn you down. LOL

Azbear1969 52M
85 posts
7/16/2020 9:46 pm

If you and him cannot come to an agreement of both having permission to have fun with others, then it would be time to leave. Luckily, my wife and I have each other permission to play with other as long as we know what each other is doing. I see another woman weekly and she knows it and is fine with it.

ItsThtPervertGuy 41M
485 posts
7/16/2020 3:13 pm

Divorce and move on. Cheating is wrong and if a person has any kind of morals or ethics then you should avoid the guilt no matter how bad that person has hurt you they will be hurt in the end once they see what they had they will never get again and someone else not has it. And don't cheat with allot of people. Quickest way to STD's. Don't sex up allot of people Period with out check ups and protection!

Suppletitties 61M
290 posts
7/16/2020 2:48 pm

nothing like to married angry, repressed people getting together for some hot nasty super pleasurable sex that you know has a beginning, a middle and an end within a boundry................ than you go home and think about when you're getting together again.

It is the fucking best after 20+ years and several long time partners as well as every adventure in between

Seekfunnn 21M
11 posts
7/16/2020 9:51 am


Darioetdina 40M/35F
1 post
7/16/2020 8:32 am

We do it together. We have limitations, veto and we come first.

Donald77 67M
31 posts
7/16/2020 5:54 am

Our relationship started out as open, both of us liked enjoying others. We loved each other but also liked being with others, single or together. We have been in this relationship for 27 years. In the last few she has lost interest because of a stroke, but encourages me to continue because she know I have needs. It has been great, vary interesting at times also. I have slowed down and it is not as much fun since she has stopped. She at time now calls my/our female friends to come take care of me cause I'm grouchy from not getting any. Married or not we always made sure we were in it for just the fun, didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Smilodon333 52M
6 posts
7/15/2020 10:36 pm

Stay married and get your spouses permission. If you are miserable in your marriage, or course,then leave.

Loslauridenuevo 31M/33F
10 posts
7/15/2020 4:29 pm

Swinger couple? Not option vote

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yumehole 55F

7/15/2020 4:02 pm

Married with permission is the best, most potential guy by my experience like that.

Mikemike107015 51M  
135 posts
7/15/2020 1:45 pm

cheating is a bad idea for everyone involved. however i prefer married women who have their so's blessing. i find it the best way to have sex with women who don't want to get serious. single women are overwhelmingly clingy.

ProfCocknCuntt 42M
604 posts
7/15/2020 1:05 pm

Never been married but believe in it. If you are unhappy just leave, Start fresh and live your life. Cheating is just petty and immature. Move on!

4jeep70 51M

7/15/2020 12:49 pm

Well got caught cheating , so if you cheat be open about, would have saved you lots of $$$$$.

I_willoralu 47M
1679 posts
7/15/2020 12:04 pm

Just choose whichever you want. It would not matter to me. I want to play with you either way

reach me in my blog titled private mail

Yours_4A_knight 56M
1501 posts
7/15/2020 11:15 am

Honestly not supremely concerned either way, if you are available and interested and I am available and interested, we can sort it out. That doesn't mean that I want the drama of knowing and being friends with your primary guy, but if you're marriage works for you in all other ways, why mess with a good thing.

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.

lookin4funMOIL 59M/59F  
460 posts
7/15/2020 8:14 am

we only play with married cpls but we both play

Suprcuk49 60M
235 posts
7/15/2020 5:38 am

Have to do what works for you.

CarpeDiem22202 59M  
350 posts
7/15/2020 3:50 am

To be honest, either works for me, I'm not the one taking the risks ... unless your husband has a shotgun collection. Your query is about YOU, and none of us can provide that answer. I agree with another comment that brought up your use of "Get Divorced and BE FREE." If you believe that getting a divorce provides you "freedom" then there is obviously something wrong. Sincere communications or counseling may be a path if not taken already, but at the end of the day YOU deserve to be happy, respected, and free. He does too but we aren't talking about him. Kids, financial security, social standing, and any number of other things could be road-blocks to going forward with a divorce. They are ALL excuses. If honest reconciliation efforts are not working then it's time to move on with your life. Just one persons opinion on the general issue, NOT judgement or advice specific to YOUR situation. Wish you the best what ever path you take Darl'n!

SomewhereSE 64M
312 posts
7/15/2020 2:27 am

Do your husband a big favor and get a divorce, I’m sure it will be a major improvement in his quality of life. The best thing my x-wife did for me was to to get caught whoring around, divorce solved that problem and many others, lmao!

ProfessorNaught 108M
1393 posts
7/15/2020 1:04 am

Risk and freedom have nothing to do with it. Probably better if rewritten.
As far as married, no thanks. The fact that you use "freedom" leads to the same conclusion. Both choice of words say a lot more than most may think.

It's that easy to rule out potential partners/failures when you pay attention to detail.

old_stick 59M
82 posts
7/14/2020 11:21 pm

If your respect for your husband has dropped so low that you will cheat on him then maybe it is fairer to get divorced. However, you are a very attractive lady, I would find you difficult to resist whatever your status !

Somewhatshy0907 46M
26 posts
7/14/2020 11:18 pm

Married and Cheating doesn't do it for me but how about Married and Open relationship. Everyone can have their cake and eat it too.

apole4ahole 56M
74 posts
7/14/2020 8:45 pm

I had one relationship where the sex was amazing, but nothing else worked between us. I have had others where we were in complete sync on every level except sexually, What it really boils down to is what works for you. The opinions of the rest of us don't have any real bearing on your life and how you choose to live it. Do what makes you happy. If you were close to me I would happily be involved with you if we hit it off regardless of your marital status. That part of the equation is your business.

sussi1028 61F

7/14/2020 5:05 pm

    Quoting Allhard4u50:
    Sometimes you have the right partner......just not the sexual partner you need and desire......cruel reality
Indeed, indeed, Allhard4u50he is so correct, it happens more often than we think, this is when comes in, you find someone for a few hours or while on a business trip ] and when you get home you are able to show your love again to your hubby believe me I have quite a few married friends, it works just wonderful for them As for me, I do need love, I do not care for sex, I desire love making, but some men are able to love more than 1 woman, these are the men I like around me

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In the end, it is all about

sussi1028 61F

7/14/2020 4:49 pm

    Quoting fkmeallnitelong9:
    married and playing with hubby knowing everything works for us

This is not even a question Just as fkmeallnitelong9said, the key is that your hubby knows about it ] as a married woman, you are much more attractive to men, just ask BigskyBBCslutbut you will do fine as a single believe me It is just some guys who are married feel saver meeting up with married women, so your options go down, but if you are into single guys, it does not matter if you are married or divorced Have fun, whatever you decide to do, life is way too short anyway

Tiderising65 67M
24 posts
7/14/2020 1:09 pm

Playing with a married woman is very HOT!!!!

fkmeallnitelong9 50F  
2415 posts
7/14/2020 1:01 pm

married and playing with hubby knowing everything works for us

tnrebelchic75 replies on 7/14/2020 10:16 pm:
Honestly he would stroke the hell out

oralafternoons 61M  
20 posts
7/14/2020 12:07 pm

I think your question itself is interesting because you ask how many of US would prefer you in one status or the other. Fact is that's immaterial because in reality only you know your situation, desires, risks and rewards of one status vs the other. The real question would be what do you prefer? I'm sure regardless of your decision there are going to be more than enough people wanting to get together with you than you'd have time for.

funandsex4641 51M/49F

7/14/2020 10:15 am

So does this mean according to this voting that I, a married woman but allowed to have sex with other people, am less populair to men?
No I don't think so

fordfire4 46M  
283 posts
7/14/2020 10:06 am

I didn't vote because that is something that is 100% your decision to make. With that being said, yes, I thing you are incredibly beautiful and sexy and would I would have zero chance of resisting you if you asked to meet, but, life changing decisions are something that you need to weigh and make make on your own. Only you know what is best for you

neednewfun50 64M  
134 posts
7/14/2020 9:57 am

My circumstance at the moment won't allow for a divorce so playing outside the marriage is the only option

maybe1932 67M/52F  
43 posts
7/14/2020 9:44 am

Doesn't seem fair to the husband. Have you brought the subject up with him ? It might be something you could enjoy together. I know a lot of men fantasize about seeing their wife being pleased but not sure how many actually get to witness it.

1seeking1 56F
3747 posts
7/14/2020 9:42 am

Why not a couple profile with your husband? I am single and play with single men only. Guilty feelings have no rhythm...

DoctorBooty 40M
6420 posts
7/14/2020 7:46 am

Married and cheating does make it hotter to me.

KlondikeGent 62M  
1 post
7/14/2020 6:45 am

I won't date, go out, or have sex with a married woman. It seems I am in the minority here though! But, I do have my standards, and, I simply will not do it - not even in my fantasies.

thinkingofyou12 65M
3842 posts
7/14/2020 6:24 am

What you do is your decision, my opinion should not matter to you. It's your life, I am good with what ever you choose.

benard69 63M/63F  
6205 posts
7/14/2020 6:15 am

Cheating probably turns you on...

milk69man69 57M
90 posts
7/14/2020 5:59 am

There's just something about fucking a married woman that does it for me.

cumnuts1 55M  
173 posts
7/14/2020 5:55 am

stay married and play together its a lot more fun and both of you might find what really turns both of you on.If both of you know who each one is playing with there is no fighting and you know who you are going home with the one you love and the reason you got married in the first place

just a thought. swing and be happy.,

Allhard4u50 59M
1703 posts
7/14/2020 5:55 am

Sometimes you have the right partner......just not the sexual partner you need and desire......cruel reality

CleavageFan4U 64M  
68283 posts
7/14/2020 5:52 am

Married cheaters unite!!

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vindalooloo23 54M
28 posts
7/14/2020 5:36 am

We'll meet me when I get to tinkley park soon and hopefully we find out lol

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