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Succumbing to Curiousity
 
I use every other aspect of this site and figured it was about time I started a blog. Not quite sure what I'm going to write. But as most people who know me know...I have a very over-active brain that doesn't stop...filled with thoughts of all kinds.
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Self Suck - Could Ya....Would Ya
Posted:Apr 1, 2017 6:08 pm
Last Updated:Jun 2, 2018 7:50 am
33010 Views
Can't help be fascinated when I see self suck videos. Most times it doesn't look very comfortable or satisfying.

Wondering others' opinions.

Ok men...
Can you do it?
Have you attempted?
Wish you could?
Think it's gross?


15 Comments
Fuck My Convictions
Posted:Mar 12, 2017 7:38 pm
Last Updated:Mar 13, 2017 5:31 am
32646 Views

Referring to my post from last week DamnI Did It AgainAlmost

Sometimes better to just go with my gut feeling (well....below the gut ). Better not to over think things, accept them for what they are, and just enjoy an afternoon of pure sex...non-committal, no expectations...just go for it!
3 Comments
Damn...I Did It Again...Almost
Posted:Mar 3, 2017 9:36 pm
Last Updated:Jun 1, 2018 8:32 pm
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In my current bored and unfulfilled state I began a conversation with a married men. How many times have I said (and written blog posts) that I wasn't going to do that anymore?? He seemed like a relatively nice guy and said his marriage was pretty much an open one, which whether or not that was true, I figured what the heck I'd meet him. I was due for some much needed excitement and sex.

First we met for lunch, which went pretty well. After a couple days of pretty consistent texting we decided to meet for a drink (I had actually considered inviting him over, instead of going out but my was home.)

Pretty heated political discussion over drinks, but I was still feeling an attraction and curiosity about having sex with him. And of course, he was up for sex from the get-go...not that there's anything wrong with that.

We made plans to meet at my place the next afternoon to consummate our "relationship". Then as we were leaving the restaurant he ran into someone he knew. They spoke for a short while and we then hurried out the door. He made a comment to me that being seen probably wasn't the best thing, He confirmed our upcoming tryst and said better not hug or kiss goodbye just in case we were being watched.

We walked opposite directions to get into our cars and as I arrived at mine I said to myself WTF, why can't I seem to remember situations like this is one of the reasons I vowed to avoid married men?

I'm not complaining that he wronged me in any way or tried to deceive me. I am not declaring him a jerk. Because he is not. I just know that being with a man, even if he's just a fuck buddy who has to constrain his behavior when he's out in public and look over his shoukder just in case there may be somone watching is not a turn on to me...it's a turn off. Any desire I had to hook up was gone. Needless to say he is trying to change my mind, but it's not going to happen.

No moral to this story. Just an example of what happens when I don't stick to my convictions.
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TSdates.com Anniversary
Posted:Mar 1, 2017 12:33 pm
Last Updated:Mar 2, 2017 4:04 pm
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To mark my 11th year anniversary on TSdates.com thought I'd post links to sampling of some of my blogposts
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DIVINE GLADNESS
Trials Tribulations of An Affair
Defending the Beast
The Tongue
Advice from an Older Woman
And they thanked me She writes with a grin
Couple Things to Be Grateful For
Is Cheating Ever Acceptable
Didn't Mean to Tease
Who Initiates Contact Men or Women
I agree Let's Meet
Tell all

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Question for those with dick pics...how did you decide which to post?
Posted:Feb 19, 2017 3:40 pm
Last Updated:Nov 25, 2017 2:14 pm
30070 Views
As we all know, pictures are what pretty much initially attracts someone to a profile, even it is just a small thumbnail. For those who post a pic of their dick, how did you decide on the picture you wanted everyone to see? I've seen so many...erect, flaccid, dripping with cum, etc,and always wonder how someone makes the choice of how to feature their most beloved appendage.



BTW I"m not one to be offended, as I wrote in a blog In Defense of Dick Pics

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Fat Bottomed Girls
Posted:Feb 1, 2017 8:04 pm
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2017 9:43 pm
31781 Views
As Queen sings 'Fat bottomed girls you make the rocking world go round", but what about if there's cellulite, that lumpy, dimpled flesh?



(Not my ass. I don't see a rearview too often. But I would imagine, it is probably a pretty good likeness these days.)
20 Comments
Camaraderie
Posted:Jan 2, 2017 2:35 pm
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2017 9:37 pm
28773 Views
As anyone who has been a follower of my blog knows, I used to frequent chatrooms quite a bit, as well as carry on one on one chats here and elsewhere. There were times I'd be switching between chatrooms and have 3 more IM windows opens. I spent an inordinate amount of time socializing online..to the point of it being somewhat obsessive. I must note, that my friendships weren't strictly online, most were people I also saw in person. They were friends, sexual acquaintences and lovers.

That is no longer something I do anymore and lately have been feeling sentimental about the closeness I had to so many. We shared details of our lives, family, sex, likes, dislikes, romantic notions, a lot of humor...so much fun innuendo and sexual banter. Oh, and we also sexted and had cybersex. Communicating online was a great way to have deep, thoughtful discussions. I have no trouble opening up to others in person, but online for others was a way for them to say things they couldn't otherwise.

Many, like me, moved on and seldom chat like that anymore. I've lost contact with most and often wonder what became of them.

Lately, I've been checking out who is chatting, wondering if I should jump in, and since so few names are familiar or they are people I never felt very friendly with I stop myself. I think about how I used to be able to join in a room of strangers and have a good time. Makes me ponder, is this something I can every enjoy again? I'm thinking it is not, but I sure had fun for a while and the encounters with the people I met sure gave me experiences I am grateful I had.


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It'snot a good way to end the year
Posted:Dec 27, 2016 6:16 pm
Last Updated:Dec 29, 2016 8:46 pm
23907 Views
6 Comments
Where is the Icebreaker Sign Up?
Posted:Dec 14, 2016 8:57 pm
Last Updated:Aug 12, 2020 5:00 pm
37757 Views
Last month after the hack my profile disappeared. A F F did recover it and I thought all was well. I even still had the gold membership I had been receiving because I am "popular and active". Unbeknownst to me until today when I was looking at a credit card account I seldom use, I was charged for the membership. I called customer service to complain, especially since my account had been set as do not renew since 2012, and they are crediting my account.

When I mentioned I had been receiving a free good membership, I was told I had to do an icebreaker. I can't seem to find that on the site. Anyone know where I can find that?

I did pay for A F F for many years. When I originally joined the fee was about 1/2 of what it is now and then after that they had all sorts of deals for discounts for frequency of use and activity which I took advantage of. It has been only the last couple years it's been a freebie for me, as long as I log in almost everyday, post a blog or on a blog, chat, etc. Even though I don't do much except blog here lately, I still hope to occasionally meet men and I feel reading profiles and email is essential to do that successfully, so a membership is important. However, I cannot justfify paying for it at this time.

Any assistance is greatly appreciated.
9 Comments
Damn...It's Official
Posted:Dec 11, 2016 12:58 pm
Last Updated:Dec 13, 2016 5:42 pm
21118 Views
It finally feels like winter. Last night was first measureable snowfall. Looked pretty for a very short time. On with the coat, scarf, hat, gloves and boots and took an early morning walk. Not too cold or windy, almost pleasant, except that the grey, dirty looking slush was already on the streets. And, also since my car is parked outside on the street, I cleared off the snow and scraped the ice off my windows hoping to make the job a little less daunting tomorrow morning when I leave for work.
4 Comments
Do You Share?
Posted:Nov 27, 2016 12:53 pm
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2017 6:41 pm
23492 Views

More questions in a series of how people feel about their presence here on A F F.

I have referred a couple friends and even co-workers to A F F, but in general, when asked what dating site I frequent or met someone on I tend to say one that is not exactly vanilla...and not give specifics. I realize when googling TSdates.com or when you sign in the site seems pornographic and there would be the possibility that my profile and pictures and blog may be seen by someone who does not understand the socialization aspect. I do not hide my lifestyle, but I am selective who I give details to.

How apt are you to share or suggest this site to a friend or colleague?
I have shared in the past, or will share in the future.
I will not share. I prefer to keep my prescence here or knowledge of this site a secret.
9 Comments , 121 votes
Have your thoughts about this site changed since you first checked it out?
Posted:Nov 26, 2016 9:05 am
Last Updated:Nov 14, 2017 8:07 pm
22327 Views

While continuing to ponder about the thoughts of others who are on A F F (and affiliate sites), I have more questions.

Some of us use this site as a dating site, others more as an alternative to other porn sites, and then there are those who use it for both as well as blogging, chatting, etc. Did you know that there was a social network here as well as "dating" profiles and porn when you first checked out this site?

I would appreciate comments as to how or if your use of the site changed since you first signed in. I happened about this site while trying to sign in to the Friend Finder site over 10 years ago and haven't left since. Not only did I find men for various types of relationships, but also other types of friendships, as I wrote in a blog post Unexpected Relationships on A F F.

More questions to come...considering my recent site activity, obviously I'm bored (damn ennui). Thinking, writing and responding to blogs is a way to occupy my time.
Yes
No
8 Comments , 37 votes
Dicks & Pussy
Posted:Nov 25, 2016 4:40 pm
Last Updated:Nov 25, 2017 2:06 pm
19885 Views
Unless you have your content filter set to "no nudity" as soon as you sign in you see a multitude of pornographic imagines - pictures and videos, both male and female.

Which makes me wonder, why is it that people (mainly women, though it seems many men agree) get offended by the written word? Why do women and men consider it rude and demeaning to receive an email that says "wanna fuck", but a friendly "hello" from, for example, a profile with a picture of a dick with thick, gooey cum dripping from it, or a couple engaged in anal sex acceptable?

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