After merely existing for well over a decade now in a sexless marriage, I have come to the point where I just feel numb, just feel nothing. I have tried for years to communicate with her about our dying and now dead sex life, tried to get her to acknowledge and address the lack of physical intimacy in our marriage, but after always being met with deflection or with her retreating into self-loathing and withdrawing from me telling me that I am making her feel like she is a bad wife and making her hate herself even more and feel even more depressed, I have simply stopped trying. The effort is not worth the reaction. For so many years now, I have convinced myself that because I live a very comfortable and happy life in every other aspect of my life except sex, that should be enough. But now, with so much more of my life behind me than ahead of me, I don't believe that any longer. I miss sex. I need sex. I want sex. And I am no longer willing to continue to live without sex. But, for some reason, I still cannot just bring myself to leave and walk away into what feels to me would be a lonely, single life. Although, I will say that as each day passes, those thoughts of leaving are getting stronger. But for now, I am looking for someone to feel alive and sexual with again. Maybe you are a married woman in the same situation as me and looking for the same thing. If so, we should talk. Or maybe, you are a single woman in a place in your life where a casual, fun, carefree sexual friendship with an older married man fits perfectly into your life. If so, we should talk. Or maybe, you are a kind and compassionate couple willing to invite a respectful older gentleman into your playtime to enhance and reinvigorate your sexual experience. If so, we should talk. Am I totally crazy or naive to think there is someone out here who would want an encounter or involvement like that with an older, married man like me? I hope not. Please leave me a message if you think I am someone you want to talk with and get to know better. I look forward to hearing from you.

My Ideal Person A woman (or a couple) willing to help bring me back to life, sexually, by either joining me in a casual, carefree “friends with benefits” sexual friendship or by joining me for a carefree, mutually pleasurable sexual encounter when our schedules allow us intimate time alone together.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Role Playing, Threesomes, Slave/Master, Mutual Masturbation, Voyeurism, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Physical attraction, Ability to be discreet, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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